This book focuses on parental ethical roles.
Kansiime deals with how families have been polarized due to circumstantial
factors affecting parents and children. Families are living in the shadows
of the realities. While life seems to be going on normally, behind scenes,
there are worse things happening among the children living under the
same roof with their parents, knowingly or unknowingly. The realities
experienced in families have been overshadowed by the parental ab-
sence in the name of work and children’s education and these have resulted into polarizing family life.
In this book the author deals with the hidden realities posed by par-
ents who spend most of their time at work and less at home, while the
children spend a lot of time at school and later with house workers. In
the course of that long period of time of separation, children find intimacy with the school teachers, peers and house workers with whom they stay for longer hours as compared with what they spend with their parents. The parents knowingly or unknowingly have created a lot of space
through which their children learn things that will affect them negatively
for the rest of their lives. The author therefore attributes most of the
negative aspects of life that are experienced in families as a result of the
current trends where parents and children are separated by work and
school life. These have denied parents to perform their roles and even
spare some time with their children as parents. As a result the parental
responsibilities have been shifted to teachers and house workers. All that
children know and do, come from other most frequent sources than from
their parents. He calls them “worlds” in which each world is seen as
having an influence on the children. The time the children spend in those worlds is more than the time they spend with their parents, and
therefore the impact of influence is greater than of parents. He points out
that even when parents are available, they tend to spend their time on
T.V, Radio or News Papers and seem not interested in their children’s
concerns. Sometimes making children to lose confidence of their parents
and suspecting them of non-responsive attitudes towards their concerns.
They develop polarized relationships.
The advice the author presents is that parents should not assume that
their children’s concerns are dealt with at school or by the house keepers
without knowing that each world of their experience responds differen
tly against family norms, and imparts different behaviors which later
contradict family norms and spill over to the wider communities. He
says that despite all these, the parents tend to pretend that their children
are free of bad practices and yet the truth is that many things are happen-
ing behind “curtains”, not of bricks and fabrics,
but of neglect, ignorance and pretense. In that
case children are found to live and do things
less known and understood by their parents, even when the parents are
aware that their children are highly influenced and are behaving badly,
instead of helping them they protect them in order to safe guard their own parental position from those who are not happy with their behaviors. On the side the children try to hide away from their parents as if nothing is happening, yet under the same roof and in the schools they trust, many things are happening and when parents discover, it becomes
too late to put them right.
This book therefore focuses on parental ethical roles. It is a very
moving family ethical exposition that will build parents and help them to
rethink about what they have been doing without knowing that they
were “killing” their families and their children’s future.
I would greatly advise and invite parents and those intending to raise
families in future to read this moving book with numerous examples that
portray real life experience in order to guard against being held respon-
sible for their children’s failures in life. Children also are encouraged to
read it in order to be helped to guard against the influences of the “many
worlds” at their disposal. It is a book that will help most parents and
children to see what has been happening between them and be able to
adjust where things have not been going the way they should have been.
I do therefore recommend this ethical exposition to families, individuals
such as house workers and schools as a tool for responsible parenting